HOW TO BUILD CONFIDENCE AND SELF-ESTEEM
1. A fear of
failure can increase self-doubt. The best way to ramp up confidence levels is
to do the thing at which we're afraid of failing. That way, it becomes less
daunting.
2. Some people are
wary of success' with achievement come unknowns. Focusing on the tangible and
visualizing success and its upsides.
3. Compassion is a
necessary pillar of confidence and self-esteem. Make sure we cut our self some
slack in the event that we make mistakes, and remember that setbacks are part
of being human.
4. If we boost our
confidence, we'll accomplish more. Self-assured individuals, view difficult
tasks 'as challenges to be mastered, rather than as threats to be avoided.'
5. To
help achieve a confident mindset, Bandura recommends putting our self in
a good mood: stress and bad vibes result in what is called 'negative
self-efficacy.'
6. A supportive social circle can provide the positive
reinforcement integral to building self-esteem. In short, make' and keep' nice friends.
7. Consider finding role models who share our gender, age,
race or professional background. Being able to see those mentors 'do what we
want to do makes us think maybe we can achieve it, too.
8. In certain situations, knowing what others expect can
boost confidence. So don't be afraid to ask colleagues what they should be
aiming for to achieve their goal.
9. Take it one step at a time and create deadlines to reach
personal confidence milestones. If, for instance, we are trying to become a
poised public speaker, gradually address larger groups for longer periods over
time.
10. But be careful not to tip over into self-satisfaction.
The upside of a mild lack of confidence is that we keep pushing ourselves to improve,
'to push the envelope.